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Love & Relationship

Counseling for Individuals

RLT as relationship counselling or couples therapy looks at both the problem areas of your relationship behaviour and family of origin problems. In addition, RLT teaches invaluable relationship skills. 

RLT as couples therapy will teach you:

  • How to end the cycle of arguing and/or distancing.

  • How to increase intimacy

  • How to get what you want in a healthy way

  • How to deal with infidelity and trust issues

  • Skills to improve your awareness of yourself and your relationship

  • How to strengthen your relationship and make it great

We all deserve a healthy, happy relationship! Call me now for a free strategy consultation. I support you in individual work and seminars, in person, or via Zoom.

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THE POWER OF FIERCE INTIMACY

"Nothing is as important in our lives as our relationships. A great relationship boosts your immune system, opens your heart and keeps you vital and creative." (Terry Real)

Couples Counselling - Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
 

Are you looking for the kind of couples counseling that helps you get to the bottom of things and gets you results fast. Are you tired of just talking about your problems and going around in circles? You've come to the right place. Using the RLT approach, a couple is guided to the 'next step' with exceptional speed and precision. RLT has the power to unlock a couples full potential! RLT focuses specifically on building an alliance between the partners who are at odds. This alliance building happens in the first phase of RLT, which is called "joinging through the truth". Here we bring to light all the hard truths that have been standing in the way of this alliance. This is a caring and compassionate look at what is really going on beneath the surface. RLT re-establishes the connection between partners in a non-blaming, non-shaming way so that both partners can feel heard and respected. They can then recognise that their presence and their wants and needs are important. RLT is different from other methods in that it not only teaches important relationship skills, but directly targets the behaviours and underlying reasons that cause the problems to arise in the first place.

I have heard from my clients more than once, "We got more out of this in two hours than...". So, if you have tried everything under the sun, don't give up. This method might just be what you have been looking for all along. RLT as a method is clear, focussed, yet compassionate and loving, and it gets results. Fast. Honesty and an open heart are all you need. Curious? Then let's get together in a free initial consultation.

Sessions last 90 - 120 minutes. 80€ per hour. Also possible online.

Why is RLT so effective

Most couples seek help because they are at ods with each other. They are stuck in a vicious cycle, some kind of destructive pattern, and they don't know the way out. This is the point, where RLT will help you. RLT is so effective because it lays out a clear path of how to step out of that vicious cycle, and, more importantly, how to become partners again, how to form an allicance, a new sense of "we". This alliance building happens in the first phase of RLT, which is called "joinging through the truth". This is the part that no couple in the world can easily do by themselves. But RLT provides this essential step. "Joining through the truth" requires a caring and compassionate look at what is really going on beneath the surface. The truth can hurt, but with the help of an RLT counselor this can happen in a non-blaming, non-shaming way so that both partners can feel heard and respected. That's when they recognise that their presence and their wants and needs are important. But they also recognise that dysfunctional behaviour needs to be addressed. When both elements are present at the same time, transformation can happen. Arrange a free initial consultation to find out if this kind of work is right for you.

Sessions last 90 - 120 minutes. 80€ per hour. Also possible online.
 

Family of Origin 

 

You know the saying, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree? For many couples it is true that sooner or later they become like their parents, whether they want to or not. The family dynamics we were born into, the role modeling of our parents and our early experiences in the family of origin contributes a great deal to our dysfunctional relationship patterns and behaviours today. There is no shame in this. We only know what we know. We just do what we have learned. But in RLT you learn a new way of relating. It's a journey towards a happier and more fulfilling relationship. The RLT counselor guides you and your partner to recognise how your family of origin and that of your partner affects the way you relate with each other today. Couples therapy through RLT will help you address those old hurts and pains. Working with the inner child in the context of the family of origin allows you, as a result, to finally make peace with the 'old stories'. The resolution on a deep level will impact your and your partners way of relating in such a way that your bond will be strengthened and your understanding for each other will deepen.  RLT will help you grow and heal from your past painful experiences of hurt, loss, abandonment and pain so that you can transform your marriage or relationship and make it into what you want it to be. Call me today.

 

Sessions last 90 - 120 minutes. 80€ per hour. Also available online.

Partners Who Don't Like to Talk About Their Feelings

 

Couples therapy may seem intimidating to you. And you may find yourself having trouble feeling anything or identifying what exactly you are feeling. Not knowing what you are feeling, or not feeling anything at all, is often perceived by a spouse as cold, not interested or some other rejection of some form. For many it is intollerable. And usually it creates some kind of conflict between you and your partner, right? RLT is an effective couples therapy approach that can help men and women learn how to be more emotionally accessible and present in their partnership. Because RLT is truth-oriented and direct, it can be especially helpful for those who are not particularly emotionally expressive. Routinely, my clients appreciate this realistic, direct yet understanding and compassionate approach to therapy. This is especially true for those who struggle with emotional connection to their partners and family. We all want to be loved for who we are. Who wants to turn into someone else in order to get what they want or need? No one. RLT respects each person for who they are. The goal is not to change anyone. On the contrary. RLT has tools to bring out the best in everone without changing who they are and have the relationship that you want and deserve.  Curious? Contact me for a free initial consultation today.

Sessions last 90 - 120 minutes. 80€ per hour. Also possible online.

Who is Terry Real

 

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) was developed by Terry Real. Terry Real is an internationally recognised family therapist, speaker and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), which offers workshops for couples, individuals and parents in the USA. He also developed as a professional training program for therapists and counselors who wish to learn his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) method. Terry has been a family therapist and teacher for more than twenty-five years. He is the bestselling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner, 1997), as well as How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner, 2002), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to guide couples step by step on a journey to greater intimacy - and greater personal fulfilment. RLT, with its rigorous, common-sense approach, appeals to both men and women. Terry's ideas on men's issues and couples therapy have been celebrated on shows such as Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, Oprah and the New York Times. A proponent of "full-throttle marriage" as described in his book The Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called "the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today."  In his latest work, Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love, Terry offers a revolutionary way to live in connection - one that allows you to value your partner, yourself and your relationship equally.