Individual work, couples counselling & conflict counselling, toxic relationships, attachment anxiety, fear of loss, narcissist relationships & other relationship problems
Welcome to my site! My name is Aneesha Christina Mueller, and I am a psychological counsellor and relationship counsellor.
I help people in the context of love & relationship. My focus is on those who have developed an insecure attachment structure. This manifests not only in attachment anxiety, fear of loss, (seemingly insatiable) neediness, on-off relationships or frequent heartbreak but also in other typical relationship problems that everyone knows. The difference is that insecurely attached partners often get into a vicious circle, cannot resolve conflicts and do not or rarely experience an apology or reconciliation. I help these people to gradually step out of this vicious circle, to heal the resulting injuries and to develop a secure bond with their partner & family in the long term. This helps them to stand on their own feet, to feel autonomy, to strengthen their self-esteem but at the same time to build a deeper connection, closeness and love for each other. This is the basis for more harmony, mutual respect, open communication, deep trust, shared joy, as well as physical tenderness and good sex. This is true love based on ah a secure attachment with the partner: freedom and love are co-existent.
"I love and accept you and your way unconditionally and you love and accept me and my way unconditionally." That is what we all long for, right? It takes a strong sense of self-worth. Confidence. Relaxation. Inner guidance. Clarity. Openness. Good boundaries. A connection to myself, to the authentic, true part of me. Then, and only then, deep connection, closeness and genuine contact with others is possible. That is what this is all about. Love and freedom together.
Strengthening self-esteem, yes. Finding yourself, yes. Learning to meditate, yes. Learning to relax, yes. Without relaxation there is no harmony. But I don't only work with relaxation techniques and methods for self-discovery. Nor is it just about increasing self-worth. These are isolated solutions. Comprehensive, well-founded, clearly structured relationship and couples counselling works holistically, and that is necessary for most relationship problems.
Are you facing a break-up despite love in the context of a toxic relationship? Do you want to work through and let go of a break-up? Or do you want to save your relationship, which has been frustrating you for years because it is bobbing along without much rocking (and without much joy or sex)? Are you plagued by loneliness despite your relationship? Do you suffer from fear of loss? Or do you shy away from a firm commitment? Do you have problems opening up to love? You don't need a serious relationship crisis to benefit from couples counselling.
We all deserve a healthy, happy relationship! Make an appointment today for a free strategy consultation. I support you in individual work and seminars, in person or via Zoom.
Relationship Counseling Aneesha C. Mueller
I'm glad you found me. Let's find out together if we 'fit together'. My main focus is to accompany you on your way to living your full potential in the context of love and relationship with others and with yourself, so that you can find happiness and fulfilment in your life.
If you feel lost, if fears and worries plague you, if you are exposed to frequent conflicts within your partnership or family, if you feel lonely (despite being with a partner), if your needs are not met, or if you are simply frustrated about your relationship (or lack thereof) for no particular reason, you are in the right place. If you are fed up with the way things are going in your relationship (or in your single life), if you feel stuck or as if life (or your partner) is trying to play a nasty trick on you, contact me today!
I know how it feels. Not good!
Many of us, including myself, think "I can do this on my own." But what we often forget is that we all have blind spots and tend to get stuck in the comfort zone without even noticing, because we have mastered the art of self-deception to the finest degree. But if you've managed to read this far, I assume that you've been going around in circles for a while. I respect and honor your courage and wisdom to consider looking for someone who can gently reflect your blind spots back to you or catch those elusive self-deception signals that you don't even notice. It also needs a skilled coach or therapist to gently reflect those hidden qualities in you that your parents failed to acknowledge. The right support can provide all that and much more.
I’ve been trained as a holistic counsellor, relationship counsellor and meditation teacher and I facilitate group work and individual sessions. My couples counselling is based on the concepts and guidelines of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) developed by Terry Real.
Why my work is so effective is to be largely credited to the fact that I have been down those rabbit holes described earlier myself. And many times. Because I didn’t get help (at first), and I went around in circles again and again. I really found out the hard way what works and what doesn’t. And that’s the good news! It took a long time but eventually, I recognized that it really helps to work with a professional counselor or coach one on one and I know inside out what works best.
Let us see how we can work together and let us find out if and how I might be able to help you in a complimentary half-hour session, in person or via Zoom.
Disclaimer: My work is about true transformation, which requires you to go through pain and discomfort, rather than bypass it, and that takes commitment and courage ♥
A Bit About My Work
With you all the way
Hi, my name is Aneesha Christina Mueller, and I am trained and certified as a psychological counselor, relationship coach and health practitioner according to DGAM/BfG (German Association for Alternative Health). As such, I work in the role of a counselor, coach, mentor, educator, group leader and meditation teacher. The main focus of my work is to help individuals that have developed an insecure attachment style to transform their conditioned way of relating into a secure attachment style that allows for healthy and happy relationships that are rooted in love, trust and respect for each other. As a recognized member in the professional association of the health practicioners (BfG) in the German Society for Alternative Medicine (DGAM) I strictly work accoding to their guidelines and qualification requirements. You can request these guidelines and qualification requirements free of charge from my association DGAM (Tel: 05139 278101, email: , ).
"Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you really are"
Rachel Naomi Remen
Results You Can Expect
Gain clarity on what is important to you. Realize that living your truth is absolutely possible and feel empowered every step of the way
Feel Deeply Valued and Loved
Learn how to break through defensive layers, be vulnerable and honest with yourself, and your loved ones, and re-establish trust and connection in your relationship with others
Manifest Deeply Held Desires With Ease
Harness the power of mindfulness to find more meaning each day and connect deeply to your path and purpose
Allow Freedom & Love Simultaneously
Experience love and freedom in your love-relationship as one through learning how to be vulnerable and authentic, re-establishing trust and connection with your partner again and again
Release Behaviors That Are Holding You Back
Uncover and confront limiting beliefs that have been holding you back from realizing your true potential
Create Real Results
Experience significant breakthroughs and positive change where you have previously felt stuck and stagnant
Cultivate Your Authentic Self
Enjoy a judgment-free space where you are supported and guided to reconnect to who really you are versus the roles you play
Image credit to Shivan Radical Clarity
I have been working with people as a coach and counselor since 2004, predominantly in Australia and India where I used to live, and since early 2019 also in Germany. I've had the privilege to work with people from all corners of the world and all walks of life. This brings a rich array of experience into my work. I give individual sessions (in person and via Skype), facilitate groups and seminars internationally, create online education programs, write books, and run an eCommerce business. Due to my extensive travels, I founded my company Squinwin OÜ in Tallinn, Estonia. The Estonian Government allows free spirits like me to manage my business remotely (even to sign contracts virtually), which is hassle-free and straightforward, and it makes it possible to travel and submit my tax return from where-ever I am based at the time. This is what allows me great freedom and flexibility, and this is very important to me. Luckily the newest technology solutions make it possible now to even work with people in one-on-one as well as group settings around the globe via virtual platforms. In early 2019 I rediscovered my childhood home, the 'Rheinland' (the area around Cologne, Germany), where I decided to settle down for a while. For now, I call it my home where I live and work for most of the year.
Oehmchenstraße 18, 51469 Bergisch Gladbach | Tel: +49 152 23474177
Zentrum für Psychische Gesundheit und Wohlbefinden
Oehmchenstrasse 18, 51469 Bergisch Gladbach
Ph: +49 2202 868 9626
Mobile +49 152 23474177
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Hebborner Feld 2,
51467 Bergisch Gladbach